A false friend is more dangerous than an open enemy.
To begin with, I want to say that I completely agree with this proverb. Today a few people can brag that they have a lot of true friends. We meet many of people every day but only two or three throughout our life can leave a pleasant footprint in our souls. Some people consider that the more friends you have, the better your life is but I believe that in this case quality is more important than quantity. So, how many of us have friends of a "good quality"? How many of us can say that they have never been betrayed?
I think in today's world anybody at some point of their lives has been betrayed or deceived by a friend, which is not that surprising to me. Friendship used to be priceless few generations ago but now it has depreciated. Some people pursue their own benefits and interests while making friends with us. They pretend, lie, and start talking gossips. When a person faces the situation when he can't trust anybody, he or she may start thinking: do I really need a friend like that? The answer is NO. False friends are worse than open enemies because enemies at least will be honest to you if they don't like something about you. False friends know your weak spots and they can use them to manipulate you or destroy.
I believe that every person should have 2-3 best friends at maximum that proved they can be good friends. Fake friends are not friends – they are true enemies.
It is true that quality is more important than quantity. Having many friends with shallow relationship is useless. They are no help and cannot make you feel better because they do not really care about you. I have experience of being betrayed by a friend and realized open enemy is much better. Just like you said, they are honest of not liking me whereas it feels awful to be struck by close friends who pretended to like me. When these things happen some time in your life, you get sick of human relationship. I like how your supporting sentences are sufficiently enough but I think it would be great for you to explain about your last sentence in body paragraph, 'False friends know your weak spots and they can use them to manipulate you or destroy'. Overall well done:)
ReplyDelete-Dong Heui Kim
Your idea is clear from the title and it flows through the writing. I agree that friends of less quality exist, and I respect your idea. However, I have some suggestions for you.
ReplyDeleteFirst is punctuation. Using apostrophes and quotation mark should be dealt with deliberately. "good quality"? should be "good quality?" or ‘good quality’?
Second is details. Your writing lacks details or examples. It will be better if you suggest examples to “They pretend, lie, and start talking gossips.”, for example. Your writing will stick to the reader’s mind if you do so.
Last comment is the cause and effect relation. You wrote, “Enemies at least will be honest to you if they don't like something about you.” However, it doesn’t convince me that it is true. If you give an example, it will be more convincing.
I hope you find it useful! Thank you.
Kim, Jusung / PSD