What causes a friendship to end?
Friends have an important role in our lives. We can often rely on our friends and confide ourselves. However the relationship between friends is not always eternal. It can be broke up easily, when the emotional conflict arise, or by another external factors. I think there are three reasons that cause the friendship broken.
First. betrayal is one of the main reason. There would be no desperate situation than betrayed by friend who you had trusted the most. Saying in detail, suppose the situation that I confide myself to friends who I think reliable. However, in some cases, friends would tell my secret to others and often talking behind my back. This can be a great pain, because I totally believed him that he would not bragging like that. This can be fatal to friendship. Lying to friends also be the kind of betrayal. Lying can be an answer to the question about "What makes difficult to maintain a friendship?" As in a childhood, we usually do not lie to each other, but when we grow up the number of times we lying also increases and we start to deceive someone for our benefits. Lying distort the truth between friends and finally breaks the relationship. In this case, the end up of friendship is often caused by losing of trust.
Lack of communication is the second reason. This is related to misunderstanding. In our friend group, we cannot know every person's feeling and the circumstances. Without knowing these kinds of situation, we often misspoken about something which would be sensitive part to the friend. In this case, the speaker is not meant to offend someone, but the opponent would not think so. They began to misunderstand each other, and in severe cases, they would not see anymore. To solve this problem, conversation between friends is essential. For instance, it is important to confess straightly when you feel uncomfortable by your friend's words. When do not speak to each other, it is unable to clear up misunderstanding, and finally the friendship could not last long.
Next is the external factors, especially lack of time and the long distance when friends moving to other place. In my experience, after I came to university, it is hard to meet my high school friends. Some of them move to other areas and others are busy at working. In my case, I am busy with school nowadays. Each other is busy at doing their own work. In these reason, we always planning to meet, but it is difficult to adjust the time and place that we are going to meet. So breaking promise is somewhat common thing to us, and we contact to each other less often than before. There are saying "out of sight, out of mind.", and it would be well matches to this situation. Even with best friends, the relationship can be distant, when have not seen much of times.
Consequently, I have explained the main reasons of broken friendship, such as betrayal, lack of communication. These two factors are deeply related to the sense of trust and understanding. Furthermore there would be other external factors, such as lack of time and long distance between friends, which are also important to maintain the stable relationship. In this reason, we need to consider these factors to do not break the friendship, as a friendship is not everlasting.
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